Aug 23 2009
We Are Just Friends
Can a straight single man be just friends with a straight single woman? It is one of the questions that come up over and over again. Most guys I know will give me the objective answer, no. How many people of the opposite sex have you spent a lot of time with and either you or the other person did not develop feelings? Maybe not enough feelings to be in a relationship but, certainly sex.
On the other hand there are exceptions to the rule. It has happen to me before a couple of times. Me and a guy were strictly friends. We hung out a lot, talked on the phone. Went to each other for advice. Nothing ever happened sexually. Neither were there any hints. According to how I saw things that is. Maybe there were hints but, I did not notice them.
The question of, can women and men be just friends came to mind because of some recent events. I am not a guy but I don’t believe I’m naive either. So guys, if we are friends and I say to you, yea you can come over and chill. We are both bored and just feel like hanging out. Why ask me if I mind that you have some scruff on your face? (You have that Justin Timberlake look going on and need to shave.) Or why tell me that you are just going to wear sweats? Why would I give a shit? Your face will not be rubbing against any part of my skin and my house is not a 5 star restaurant. Comments like those from “guy friends” put me on alert. To me that means you have some kind of interest in me other than friends because you feel you need to impress me in some way. Am I wrong?
Looks like I am going to have to cool it on the hanging out at my place or his. Really not trying to go “there” with this guy. Friendships were much easier when boys and girls would run from each other from fear of catching cooties.
Speaking of back in the day….
