Jan 10 2009
Face It, You’re NOT His Equal
This might be a crazy thought. You might even think I have no idea of what the hell I’m talking about. That’s OK, I have witnessed it one too many times now to not “get it”.
Here is the scenario: A man and a woman are either seeing each other casually or in a relationship. (Doesn’t really matter which one.) You are very much attracted to him because he has a lot of the qualities you are looking for. He’s good looking, smart, educated, funny, makes you feel like a million bucks. Pretty much seems to have his shit together or very much on his way to being so. There is something not quite right though. Maybe he doesn’t introduce you to any family members. Or you two are not seen together outside of your place of his. You could even be in a relationship for a year or two and you start to wonder when will things move to the next level. A woman’s natural reaction is to think something is obviously wrong with him. She tries to get answers as to what is holding the two of them back. You either get no response at all or the infamous, “it’s not you, it’s me” line.
Guess what? It is YOU! I’m not saying it’s you 100% of the time. Hear me out. Every woman wants a man that is her equal. Someone that she doesn’t have to take care of but rather want to take care of. A man that can do for himself regardless of if he has a woman on his arm or not. Someone who has goals and achieves them. A man that is going places. You get my point. Now look at yourself. Can you really measure up to the same standard? It’s a hard thing to do but seriously, look in the mirror. Why should he settle for a standard below his? It’s only fair ladies. I’m so tired of women complaining about men who are too stupid to see a good thing when they have it. Sweetie, love is not all about how you make a person feel. Although it is a very important factor, so is paying the bills and making a comfortable life. The same way no woman wants to carry a man’s dept, clean up after him and carry him through life, the same can be said for a man.
Next time you’re wondering why he’s not stepping up and taking things to the next level (whatever that level is for you), take a good look at yourself and maybe you’ll find the answer. You will rarely if ever get this hardcore truth from his mouth. Guys don’t have the heart to tell you this or they are too scared to tell you. You can go with whichever one makes you feel better. Before you get all up in arms over a situation make sure you truly are at par with this man in your life. It goes both ways.
