Ms. B. Discussions and Reviews

A picture can say a thousand words. In this picture, more than one story can be told. I see strength, perseverance and love.

•  Strength on the bond Michelle and Barack Obama share.
•  Perservering in the twenty months they have been campaigning all of the USA. Despite the negatives.
• Love in the way two people connect that is beyond this physical world.

This one picture can be inspiring to many of us. When you believe in a higher purpose and have the power of a solid bond, then nothing can stand in your way. As black men and women, we need to get back to unity. Stop waiting for others to make YOUR life better.  Start with yourself, your neighbourhood, your city and  your country.

Don’t let the title fool you. This has to do with both men and women. Remember back in the day when  you spent your lunch and recess running around the school yard? A time where boys thought girls were “icky”. In elementary school if a girl liked a boy, she would do things to show it. Like try and get involved with what he was interested in (playing a sport). Maybe she would laugh at everything he said because she thought he was soooo cute. The tomboys would get physical and punch the boy in the arm. Or something to that affect. No matter how the girl chose to go about it, the results would usually be the same. The boy did NOT react! He wasclueless!! My point is; twenty plus years later; not much has changed. This is only a generalization based upon experiences of my own and others.Steven; a friend of mine in his thirties; asked me long ago if a woman liked him. Based on what he told me, I couldn’t believe he was really asking me this question. She was giving so many blatant signals. You’d have to be a complete idiot not to see them. It made me wonder. Why are most guys so clueless? There are a group of guys who “act” clueless because they are not interested. It’s easier for them to be that way instead of being honest and hurting her feelings. Then there are a percentage of men who are truly unaware. Either because they don’t give a bleep. Or they fear having their ego bruised. I’m well aware that the ego of a man is more fragile than most of us women think.We figure, hey they are the ones who have to go out on a limb to get the attention of a woman. They don’t always score so men should be used to the rejection. Ladies, no matter how cool a guy thinks he is, there is usually some fear behind the risk he’s about to take. He’ll never tell you this. Once again that would NOT be good for his ego. From a woman’s perspective this may be annoying, frustrating and complicated. Sometimes you have to spell it out for them. Other times you may have to take it slow and continue with the subtleties. Every situation is different. A random question you can bring up would be, ”How do you know a girl likes you?” The best part of that question is, if he hasn’t been noticing your attempts, he won’t realize that the question has to do with you anyway lol. Based on his answer, you can act accordingly. Both men and women don’t always pick up on the signals. I find more women are wired to do so unlike our male counterparts. To my fellow intelligent women out there, the next time this happens to you, there are two options. Bash him in the head and say, “I like you damn it!” Or be patient and remember we do not think alike. So you can not totally judge his incapability of not noticing how fabulous you really are. In the meantime, take a break and do you!